Mommyhood: Pay Your Dues Here

Let's be clear here, Mommyhood is a club where dues are definitely paid. The choice to join the club is both exciting and scary. Being a mommy is scary even when you make the conscious decision to be a mommy. This club, where women gather and share heartwarming or wrenching stories often welcomes newbies with open arms so that they too can have a strong shoulder when the moment of realization hits: I am responsible for a life. This is now the most important job I will have.  Many outsiders of this club will look upon those who stumbled into mommyhood as interlopers--women not truly understanding the overwhelming task and sacrifice a mommy must make and that may be true, but they are members of this club regardless.

The first day you are on your new "job" {even if you're going to go back to a full time job} you will stare lovingly into the eyes of this brand new baby and think "Oh My God--what now?" Being alone can make a new mommy nervous especially if they wait until later in life to start a family.  New mommies will feel an overwhelming desire to try to be perfect. This is a dream, nothing is ever perfect with parenthood, it's all about finding a new normal and mourning for the life that you've given up. People looked at me strangely when I say this. I mourned for my old life after having twins; that is NORMAL and don't feel bad if you do.

Love is important, but having a realistic idea of what needs to happen is ideal. Love warms your soul ;being mentally prepared for a is baby priceless. Share your curiosities with mommies who have been around the block they will help ease your fears and offer great advice. Why keep hitting your head against the wall if someone else has something that will help you get on with life smoothly?

So, yes there are dues in mommyhood and you will pay them in more than one way. Unfortunately, you never know the form of payment until it comes due.